A few weeks ago, one of my friends posted the “it’s not a priority” quote to her Facebook page. You’ve probably seen it. I know it wasn’t the first time I saw it floating around on the internet. It’s made the rounds of Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, you name it.
Every other time I saw it, I clicked on by. But this time, I stopped. I’d been feeling frantic and overwhelmed, with too many things on my to-do list and too little time. Of course, too little time is an illusion. I know that, but it doesn’t feel that way when you have 200 things on your needed-to-be-done-yesterday list and are wearing your last pair of clean undies. So I stopped. I decided that I would try it. For one week, I would keep track of all the things that I supposedly didn’t have time to do. I kept a little log in my notes app.
Three days in, I was horrified. Here are some of the things I wrote:
It isn’t a priority to eat lunch. [because I don’t need to eat?]
It isn’t a priority to turn in that report on time. [start employee here]
It isn’t a priority to shower before work. [because I’m too tired to get up on time.]
It isn’t a priority to go to the bathroom. [yikes]
Not eating came up more than once. So did not showering. And not sleeping enough. After just a few days, it was clear that I wasn’t making self care a priority. Sure, I was sticking to my workout schedule and keeping up my fitness. I was doing what I needed to do for work. But, I hadn’t really sat down in days. I wasn’t eating on schedule. In short, my day to day behaviors didn’t match my values. So I made some changes. I cut back on a few obligations, left committees I’d outgrown, and turned down several opportunities. It feels better. I am making a commitment to myself to live in line with my values and it starts with how I manage my time.